tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post30780067476757369..comments2023-06-06T04:06:21.451-07:00Comments on Kyla's Not Normal: Emotional BaggageKylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-66348917323232007532012-02-07T17:32:47.987-08:002012-02-07T17:32:47.987-08:00Wow. I wished it helped me write. I'd get so m...Wow. I wished it helped me write. I'd get so much work done, I'd blow people's minds.<br /><br />Thanks for the differing perspective! It really livened up the discussion. Have a great day, and happy writing!Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-624511465188596472012-02-07T17:31:51.135-08:002012-02-07T17:31:51.135-08:00Thank you so much! That's a wonderfully kind t...Thank you so much! That's a wonderfully kind thing to say, and I actually agree with you. Hiding your stress-induced rantings would probably be a good idea. Don't want anyone reaching for the strait jackets, or anything. When I'm stressed, I usually write poetry. The great thing about poetry, though, is people rarely see what you really went through. They only see the emotion and pain and thought, no actual events that lead to it.<br /><br />I bet your grandkids love your journals and grow up hoping to be just like grandma. Crazy and all. Have a great day, and happy writing!Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-23143876666073229252012-02-07T17:28:11.771-08:002012-02-07T17:28:11.771-08:00Lol. Being transparent has always been a personal ...Lol. Being transparent has always been a personal problem of mine. I probably let people know far more about me and my personal life and feelings than I should.<br /><br />But what fun is life without a little risk? If you never let yourself be open to the world, you'll never get anything from it. And why live if you're not really going to live at all?<br /><br />I like to vent in my writing, too, but getting online, being social, talking to actual live people...that requires a certain mood that I rarely have if I am stressed out or sick or upset. Then there's writing a story. It requires a certain amount of concentration, so that you can get in the world you're writing about, live the story as you write it. Then you have to be able to translate the thoughts and feelings and images you see in your head into actual words that make coherent sense to someone other than you and your mom. Not easy to do when you're upset and stressed and sick. In fact, it's a rather lot like work when you're in those moods, and more work than you can stand if you're been working all day.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks so much for your commiseration, and for your perspective! I'm so glad to hear how you've dealt with stress and problems in your life. Learning other people's way of thinking is invaluable to everybody, especially writers. After all, how can you make characters if you only know your own way of thinking? They'd all be the same!<br /><br />Have a great day, thanks for commenting, and happy writing!Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-81652306118409795322012-01-21T12:03:03.623-08:002012-01-21T12:03:03.623-08:00This is rough, and a harder life than most blogger...This is rough, and a harder life than most bloggers. I can't relate too much, but I write as a way to vent. I started my blog when I just moved to a new state, and used my personal space to rant about how odd things were in my new town.<br /><br />It has made me transparent, which is a good and bad thing. I don't hide my emotions, but sometimes I probably should.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02993699573170596587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-86935463467037642972012-01-15T19:38:36.181-08:002012-01-15T19:38:36.181-08:00I write when I'm stressed, but I never publish...I write when I'm stressed, but I never publish any stress-induced rantings. That way, I can just let it all out and not have to worry about anyone judging me or reading what I wrote...until my grandkids find my journals and realize what a crazy lady granny was. I think you have done a remarkable job coping with the situation and putting a positive spin on it as it relates to your writing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588636263653403475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-84181633511263101942012-01-15T11:36:47.157-08:002012-01-15T11:36:47.157-08:00Stress helps me write. I sometimes write to vent. ...Stress helps me write. I sometimes write to vent. It helps. <br /><br />But hey, whatever works for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-9524506901104396292012-01-14T16:41:46.401-08:002012-01-14T16:41:46.401-08:00Lol. Thanks! Life has been pretty crazy, I must sa...Lol. Thanks! Life has been pretty crazy, I must say. But I think I'm back to stay...at least for a little while. Mom's health isn't doing well again (they have her on chemotherapy pills and steroids; the chemotherapy is giving her urinary tract infections, and they have to take her off the chemo to treat it, which brings on TIAs; the steroids are causing her to gain weight around her throat and cuts off her breathing in the middle of the night so they need to cut it down before it kills her, but she keeps having strokes whenever they drop it down). If anything huge happens in that direction, I'll probably vanish again.<br /><br />Between my aunt, Mom, and my own health issues, you'd think I was living in a novel myself! In fact, this would be the part that the knight in shining armor swoops in on his white steed and saves me from my terrible fate.<br /><br />And wouldn't you know it? He's late.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-37914185598629924862012-01-14T16:37:50.131-08:002012-01-14T16:37:50.131-08:00I know. I shouldn't feel bad because my life n...I know. I shouldn't feel bad because my life needs dealing with every once in a while. But all the "truly dedicated" writers say that they don't miss a day off unless someone in their family dies or something. I don't know, it makes me feel all guilty inside that I'm not as good as they are.<br /><br />But you're right. My mental and physical health is more important than my writing...and frankly I can't write if I lose either one of them, anyway! Thank you for the great reminder of keeping my priorities straight. These are the words of a truly great friend.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-89252594807451930902012-01-14T14:36:16.835-08:002012-01-14T14:36:16.835-08:00Oh my god, I don't blame you for being stresse...Oh my god, I don't blame you for being stressed and needing a little break from blogging.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10385787689075231229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-12946962733809057842012-01-14T14:14:55.542-08:002012-01-14T14:14:55.542-08:00Personally i think there's nothing wrong with ...Personally i think there's nothing wrong with not writing while you deal with something you need to. I didn't know you have Lupus and I think you're determination to write is admirable, but at the same time I would say, as a friend, take care of yourself first. You'll get there, it just might mean your novel will be published six months or a year later than you wanted. As sad as it is perhaps this will keep your aunt from adding stress to your life.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00570885191712211971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-22504470343846221012012-01-14T11:56:09.805-08:002012-01-14T11:56:09.805-08:00I have similar troubles. I have lupus, and stress ...I have similar troubles. I have lupus, and stress is one of the contributors to the disease...which is probably the reason I'm having a really, really bad lupus flare this year. <br /><br />My problem isn't so much that I want to go to bed, though. It's that I just want to go inside my head and not come out until I can deal with reality again. Unfortunately for me, that means I live inside my own imagination a lot. While imagination is key to writing, you can't really write anything unless you come out of your head for a while and live in reality for some time. Reading does not require reality. Writing, somehow, does.<br /><br />No quick fixes for anything important in life, I suppose. But I'll have to try to fix it somehow. I just can't figure out how.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-58453772973270197782012-01-14T11:50:02.510-08:002012-01-14T11:50:02.510-08:00At least I know I'm not alone! It's amazin...At least I know I'm not alone! It's amazing how linked my emotions and creativity is. If it's that way for everyone...it's amazing there are any books to read at all. <br /><br />I guess I'm left hoping that I'll have a stress-free few months so I can catch up on my work finally. And that you have the same, too!Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793288607844743336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-4858680256300371272012-01-14T11:24:58.573-08:002012-01-14T11:24:58.573-08:00I have that same problem too - stress absolutely c...I have that same problem too - stress absolutely cripples me, but not just with writing. When something bad happens, I feel like going to bed and not waking until my life can start again. Unfortunately, that means I seem to be in a constant state of waiting. I've been trying to overcome this lately, but I don't think it's something that is a quick-fix.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282953557162980573.post-18694396595399710162012-01-14T11:11:25.694-08:002012-01-14T11:11:25.694-08:00That's really crazy O_o At least it only took ...That's really crazy O_o At least it only took her six months to do it. I think if I'm stressed maybe I can't write, it would explain just how little writing I do actually. So then I can't help you with pushing through it if I have that problem too.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12118816573712396453noreply@blogger.com